I'm stalled and that needs to change!

Posted on October 6, 2015

Good morning my friends!

This is my 3rd, 4th, & 5th dietbet. I won my first two by losing 9 lbs, but that was last year and a lot has happened since then! It's time for me to reevaluate my goals and finally push through the barriers!

This past winter was a dark and suffocating time for me, wrought with family struggles and personal failings. This summer, I finally came out on top! I pulled myself out of the depression, distanced myself from the destructive family, and came to peace with the death of my dear grandmother and my failings. I started working out consistantly and chasing after goals, I started working again--the job was terrible and I left after a few months--but the point is I saw the light again! I fell madly in love with biking again. I been biking at least 100 km every week, and made goals to beat my previous achievement of a continuous 100 km ride I accomplished in 2005. My top distance this summer is 90 km, I'm so close! I lost 27 pounds and 10 inches off my waist in the process. However, I've now stalled and have been hovering around the same weight for 2 months now.

I joined the bets to help me push through my barriers, and to be able to face future road blocks without backtracking. Thanksgiving, anniversary celebration with my in-laws, my best friend's wedding, my birthday, Christmas, New Years. This time of year is thick with celebration and a bounty of food. I have 33 pounds left to lose and with my 4 year anniversary coming in the spring, I want to be the best shape I can be!

The darkness is behind me now, and I know how to tackle it when it shows up again--it's time to dedicate my energy to making my body into the best it can be, to leave 2015 knowing I accomplished what I've always wanted for myself, and to enter 2016 knowing nothing is holding me back.

Good luck to my fellow dietbetters in the Weekly Kickstarter (Oct 5-Nov 1), Get Lean for Halloween, and Jillan Michael's Fall Dietbet! We can do this!

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Debbie

10/07/2015 5:20AM

I'm sorry for your struggles. I've been stalled for a while now, too. Longer than 2 months! Up a few, down a few, etc. Kind of yo-yo ing but only by a few pounds. I have not had all of your struggles, though, and you are an inspiration. I wish you luck on this Diet Bet and am happy for you that life is on an upward swing.

Sarah

I wish you luck also! Despite the ups and downs, which are a fact of life usually, the most important thing is being honest about where you are and where you want to go--then making the changes. That's why I like dietbet because it's a commitment to that change. We're in it together!

Happy Girl

10/06/2015 6:54PM

First, thank you for your honesty. Second, I understand completely, minus the marriage thing. In addition to being a sedentary person my entire life, during the last seven years, my family has fallen apart. My parents divorced. My three year old nephew drowned. My grandfather, the only stable member of the family, passed. My depression reached an ultimate high and I gained a significant amount of weight, fifty pounds to be exact. Some days, I just don't want to try. But lately, I've been moving toward a more positive mindset, working at appreciating my body, talents, raising my self-esteem, etc. This bet will, hopefully, be a tremendous help to me. I am searching for myself, readjusting my hopes and dreams and bettering every area of my life. I am so excited for the future and all it will bring! Best of luck to you as well! And congratulations on your four year wedding anniversary. Any tips on how to find a great guy?

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Sarah

I feel for you and your struggles. Life sometimes really loves to pile on the pain, doesn't it? The thing that helped me the most to get through the hard times was to give up some of the control I thought I had, or control I thought I could get. Bad things have happened, and they will happen again. I could either chose to let those bad feelings drown me, and then stuff myself with food and hiding away from the world--but these actions don't make the events any less easy, and they certainly don't go away. I hope you too can start by accepting the fact that there will be pain and you can't help when these things happen. But you can take care of yourself, and put your energy into your health, and energy into the positive relationships you have--the people who will support you. It helps to be honest about what happened and how it effected you. I find platforms like instagram helped me, because I could tell my story, and receive support in a space that feels more anonymous than with classmates or coworkers (for me at least). As for meeting a guy, heh. I met my guy on POF actually, which doesn't always work for everyone (have to weed through a lot of scum on there...) Overall, the best advice I have is when meeting people, maintain your independence, love yourself and love the things that make you, you. When I met him, I was at the healthiest point in my life--the truth is "I didn't need no man" and it worked. When you love yourself, you invite others love. Everyone has damages, bu

Happy Girl

Maintain my independence... I'm working on what that means.