family and friendamies

So true! I'm fortunate that my husband treads that delicate balance of loving me as I am and telling me I'm beautiful no matter what I weigh--and supporting me when I'm working to lose weight. But I have a family member who has often commented on how "you just didn't look good when you were so skinny". (I was not exactly gaunt then.) I think every commenter here has made some great observations, and Sherry & Susie really hit the proverbial nail on the head. People are uncomfortable even with positive change.

Thanks for the great post!

Agreed! lt's kind of weird that people don't really realize how devastating those food offers can be. My guyfriend has offered me my favorite foods or to take me out even though he knew l was trying to not indulge too much. He was just trying to make me happy, but he didn't realize I was specifically trying to not take so much pleasure in eating. It's a weird area when a supportive action, the gift of comfort food, turns from a present into a hurtle.

Thanks for sharing that Sherry S. I have similar experience with my familiy and some contacts. My friends have expanded to include more in the active group. Those former ones that give me a hard time for being active are themselves not so, I understand. Unfortunately I sometimes succumb and miss an activity because i am trying to make them feel i am not "obsessed " but I always regret that choice since its usually the healthier option.
I also appreciate the response to this post as the concept of them accepting change never occurred to me. I also guess it possibly jerks them into reality about the denial of their own situation

Sometimes it's a jealousy because they need to do it themselves and aren't or they subconsciously are concerned if you lose this weight how it might change you. It's hard to understand for sure but it seems to happen a lot. Just hang in there and remember you are the priority and do what's best for you and try to get them to understand and get on board with you. I love those Belvita biscuits by the way. At least that's a good thing to turn to. Just don't give it, you deserve to do this for you!

Sometimes friends, family and partners are afraid that if you change too much you won't want/need/love them anymore.

We, as humans, do not like change. And you are changing. We are creatures of habit - that's why most of us got fat to begin with. We are now changing: habits, mindset, lifestyle. Those around us like the predictable, old us. It will take time for them to adapt to the new, healthier you. Most do not do it intentionally, or maliciously. Forgive them, remind them about the new you, and move on.
Congrats on your change!!!