Sometimes it's really hard to embark on a journey that means giving up most of the things you like and start doing some things you're sure you're going to hate. In my own weight loss, trial-and-error, journey I have found that going about it with a fury or in leaps doesn't work.
Example: You tell yourself tomorrow you're going start eating only healthy foods, keep a food journal, make a gym membership, and have the body you always wanted to have.
That's never going to happen, not to us regular people, because the next day, other things will still need doing. Want to prepare your healthy food for the week? No, you can't, because you have to get the kids ready for school and go to work. Want to go the gym? But you just got home and you're tired, hungry and everyone at your local gym is probably going to be an a-hole. So on, and so forth.
Instead, what worked for me, a regular Joe, was the small steps approach. Let show you how I went about it:
1. I like to drink Coca-Cola. A LOT! Like 1.5 gallons a day. I didn't feel I was ready to give it up, not cold turkey anyway. I had tried before and failed. So i decided to make a small adjustment instead. I switched from regular to diet. Is it still bad for you? God yes! But I dropped 2000 calories just like that. This something anyone can easily do. Find something that love to eat or drink on a daily basis, and make a small adjustment to make it healthier. No time lost, no hard stress.
2. I didn't feel I was ready to step into gym, nor invest that much time and money yet, so I decided running would be better. People usually go for huge goals, like "I never run a day in my life, but i'm gonna put my running shoes on, and run a 5k". Then they realize it's impossible, what's the point, and quit. I couldn't run for more than 3 minutes at time the first time started, so I decided that my goal would be to run 20 mins without stopping or walking. So I ran for 3 minutes, than walked for 5, until I hit the 20 min mark. As weeks went by, I added a minute of running and subtracted a minute of walking, keeping the 20 min time-frame all the while. I didn't quit, and I kept improving until I was actually able to run a marathon. That's what you can do as well, find some sports activity you can do on a daily basis, doesn't take more than 20 mins to do, don't have to deal with other people in order to do it just yet, and costs close to nothing. Set a very reasonable goal and stick to it.
3. Talking to your family. Just the ones that depend on you and live with you, not cousin and aunt. It's hard to be on track, if they keep undermining you, without even knowing it. Sit them down, and tell you want start a new style of living, and although you don't need them to join you, you do need them to stay out of your way, and give you the little extra-time you'll be needing. For now.