What the hell is winter weight?

I have always been aware of the fit/naturally skinny peoples thoughts about weight. This has for sure been a life time worth of learning seeing as I grew up with one of them.

I, like my mother, am naturally round and love food. What can I say? If I could have picked a cinnamon roll over a squat the cinnamon roll always won. So because of these wonderful things I have been round since birth and have spent most of my life getting rounder. Sure there was a slimmer period when I played sports in high school. But still my slim period was still 5 to 7 sizes larger then my peers/family members.

The roughest thing about being bigger as a kid is feeling like your family members constantly think you need to change things about yourself(never good enough). I mean when your grandfather starts giving you dieting tips while he sits eating a little of each of the three deserts on the table it definitely doesn't set the best tone. Plus when you are fat, have the middle name of sue, and have horribly mean boy cousins who live on a farm that have pigs your name then because a pig call. A pig call they call at you, a lot!

So of course as a life long fatty, who learned to pick on myself before others, I am always aware and feel the negative comments that the fit/naturally skinny say. Since I have been actively working/participating in dietbets for the past 2 almost 3 months I have tried to let the fit/natually skinny person in my life negative comments not bother me.

Anyone who has ever been around negative people know it is really hard to ignor them when they direct their negativity as something you are working hard at.

We share lots of friends on facebook who we have known forever. Many of these friends are doing so many different things since the seasons on the mainland has changed and gotten pretty cold. One of our mutual friend posted a great photo of her, friends, and a fun outdoor actitivity they were doing. There was no comment of 'awe they look good' or 'awe that looks fun'. The first words out of the fit/natually skinny persons face was 'whelp looks like she is putting on her winter weight already'.

WTF????

Did our friend become a grizzly and I didnt notice? Not only is this friend in no way rotund, she I am certain is still smaller then the fit/naturally skinny person who made the comment. I do not understand the need for comments like that. Who cares if she has gained a little weight? Maybe the sweater she was wearing made her look fluffy, who knows?!

Before I thought trying to be a better me was hard because of the eating and working out. But honestly it is things/people that seem to be hurting me more. Not having a strong support system or work out buddy here constantly keeps me questioning the decisions I am making eating and health wise. Which I shouldn't because I am constantly searching and implementing healthy changes that I know will benefit my whole health not just my weight on a scale.

The comments made by the fit/naturally skinny person are made from a place of ignorance because of how that person has lived their life. Sure I love and care about this person but I have to remember that I am not her. I refuse to place judgement or laugher on someone because they supposedly added some winter weight(aka. fluffy sweater).

I am keeping it moving because being a positive, happy, healthy, kind, and an awesome person is what I always want to be.

Els momma

11/23/2014 3:24PM

I feel ya. I've always struggled with my weight and have always been the bigger girl in the family. I've learned to ignore even when it's tough to. For example tonight my.gma came for a visit and told me how this girl from church is loosing weight and I should see what she's doing. She tells me this while stuffing her face full of food. Shes old and means well but I don't think people really understand how words effect a person especially if you are body image conscious. Hang in there and ignore the insensitive people.

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Brit

11/23/2014 7:10AM

Yeah, I know what you mean. Just last week, one of my co-workers was complaining that she can't fit into her clothes anymore because she gained 5 pounds. She said she will need to start wearing Spanx because she looks gross now at only 23. Mind you, she is definitely at a healthy weight and she looks great!

It's hard to ignore those comments sometimes, and it is easy to give up. But, we shouldn't let those comments affect our progress. We have come too far to let words bring us down. Here's a good quote I like to think of: "A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms." Do your own thing and be happy with your progress and success!

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