Comparing Myself to Others

I've been pretty hard on myself lately, specifically comparing myself to others. It makes me depressed and I end up eating more than I want. I end up feeling sluggish from too much food and I don't want to work out because I feel gross. It's a vicious cycle that makes me feel worse and worse.

I've gotten better about not comparing myself to people that I follow on Instagram or celebrities, but real life people still get me down. One of my good friends is about my height and while she's also overweight, she's always been smaller than me. She started working out last month and already lost ten pounds. That puts her at the same weight as me right now. The same weight that's taken me about 10 months to reach. I can't help but feel that I'm not doing enough and that I should be so much further along by now.

It's tough. I'm trying to remember how great it felt to reach this weight and how accomplished I felt. I didn't think I'd ever make it this far, even with the 10 month timeline. Yes, it's a struggle and it's taking some time, but I feel like this is sustainable. I am more than capable of keeping this up. I don't know if I'd be able to do all the things that my friend has done to lose 10 lbs. She has her own journey and I have mine. We've been supportive of each other and that's what I need to focus on. Not the numbers and the timeframe.

Going forward, I'm going to work on being more compassionate with myself and forgiving myself when I fall back into the habits from my old life. I have my whole life to get this worked out and I only have to look back at how far I've come to see that I'm accomplished a lot already.

Crystal

04/18/2016 6:34PM

Everyone has their own body and journey. I have a childhood friend with crazy fast metabolism. She's always been thin and can eat whatever she wants. Even when she broke her leg and was sedentary for months, when she gained weight she looked normal weight, but slightly curvy. As for me, I go to Weight Watchers meetings. When I first walked in I felt so embarrassed. I felt like I was the only one with almost 200 pounds to lose and every else maybe 50 pounds or 5-10 pounds. I could have lost just 1 pound in a week and compared myself to other ladies who weigh considerably less than me and lost the same... and I was disappointed in myself. Then, I realized, a loss is a loss. I worked hard and I know that when I weigh in with a rep they would only say positive and encouraging words and that's what I needed to say to myself. It's my own journey and story. Whether I lose the weight slow or fast, I'm doing this and it's going to be okay. I just want to be the best I can be. Do what you feel is best for yourself and your body. This is your story. Stay positive. I also struggle with this. I come on this website for encouraging words and thoughts and well. You can definitely do this. Good luck =)

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LilyN

Thanks Crystal, a loss is a loss! We're getting it done in our own time :)

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