Frustrated with friends

Posted on November 1, 2014

I'm struggling with eating socially.

I feel like I'm 100% committed to losing this weight, but the past two days I've gone over in calories. It's resulted in me gaining back one of the three pounds I lost. Not good.

While the blame goes solely on myself, since I'm the one putting the food to my mouth - I am frustrated by just how many sweets, and chocolates, and "snacks" I'm offered by my friends. They know I'm trying to lose weight. They know I'm working out six days a week. I don't want to yell at them for a friendly gesture, but I struggle with telling them it'd be friendlier to not offer me something (unless it's carrots, throw me carrots).

I'm finding myself reorganizing who I hang out with to reduce temptation. Have any of you noticed a shift in who you hang out with based on eating habits?

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Gin

11/17/2014 9:56PM

I've learned to just smile and say "No. Thank You". No need for an explanation. This is your diet - health and fitness plan. Don't let anyone take it away from you. Have your soldiers stand guard at the gate! I mean that in the most pleasant way possible.... No. Thank you. Thanks for offering - but No. (Are you sure?) Yes. I'm sure. I WILL take a glass of water if you have some. (Let them give you something. Sometimes it shuts them up.)

Kim

11/03/2014 8:21AM

My mother is the WORST. I have to remind myself that it's just what she does. She actually doesn't mean any harm but it's so ingrained, "offer loved ones food repeatedly" that she often doesn't even realize she's doing it and I have to remind her frequently. Even though your friends know that you're trying to lose weight, have you let them know exactly how their offers affect you? It may be time to drag out the ol' "I statements." I'm suspecting that some of them may not realize the impact they're having. Of course, I could always be wrong and they're just sabotaging assholes. ;)

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Cam

11/01/2014 11:16PM

I struggle with family! They live around eating. I want that mindset GONE completely!

Floordeboor

11/01/2014 5:11PM

Yessss, totally! I've been more strict with my friends and family. If course not yelling but told them friendly that I don't appreciate their offers! Most of them understand and if they don't, they're not worth your time! x