Well, I tell ya that's a tough question. You brought up a touchy subject that's for sure. To me it is a hard one. I know I'm over weight as most who are over weight already know they are over weight/fat. But I think your mother busted you out of a distructive rut. Thank God she did that for you. I think it was good someone very close to you got after you. I wish at times my husband would do that for me. I think he is the only one that I would allow to do that..lol like your mother did. My mom says rude things to me. I had Meningitis this past May and my brother came up to the hospital and told me it was because of my weight which had nothing to do with it at all. I almost died from that and it has been a long recovery. He had just lost 50 lbs. But when I confronted him he apologized to me over and over. I do need to loose weight but I have to say people say a lot of rude things. In my case I was on a medication that made me gain weight for many years. When I was at the