so i am watching extreme weightloss, and im crying because my relationship is almost identical to cassies... im affraid for my relationship... hes sitting at his desk making smart ass comments right now..... :(
Posted on July 29, 2014
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Sign in to CommentKeep doing what you're doing Jenn!! You have a LOT of support right here 24/7. Rock it out!!!!!
i recently started working with my trainer again and he is becom1ing more supportive, slowly....
I am so sorry. It's so hard when those we love don't seem that supportive. I truely thought Cassie's relationship was doomed but in the end it wasn't. I truely wish the best for you~~
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Do you think that deep down he could feel threatened or intimidated by your willingness to change? Does he have areas in HIS life that you/'society' deem worth changing? More than likely, that's the case - and this is when people tend to lash out and bully, or become sarcastic. I know I've been guilty of it before! I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that he is slightly JEALOUS of the fact that you have decided to make this change - either because he isn't bold enough to do so, or he's afraid that you're making a change without him. Maybe try to involve him in your efforts to change - take him with you on hikes/activities (without making a big deal of it), sign up for a vegetarian/healthy cooking class together - then perhaps he won't feel so intimidated, or that he is being replaced by your "good" habits! And if none of that works in reaffirming him, he obviously has some deeper issues he needs to deal with on his own... before your relationship can be truly 'healthy'!
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This begs the question, "Is he supportive of you in any other endeavors?" The point is that our lives are filled with nay-sayers. It's up to us to channel the nonsense away from our focus and goals. You've already lost 4 lbs from using this site as your support network. It's working for you, therefore you really don't need his approval right now. When you win 2 or maybe 3 of these DietBets in a row, he'll change his tune and come around. Keep up the good work.
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So sorry. hugs going your way!