Fifteen minutes of freewriting

I never understood the whole 'forgiving' thing. I figured, how can I forgive someone who did something so bad when I read about people who said that they did forgive. Later, I realized that as long as I have negative feelings toward someone, this negativity is weighing ME down. The other person probably does not even care. I need to focus on positive things for myself instead. So the way I take it, it is all about standing up for yourself, setting boundaries, going toward goals which are healthy for YOU. Then focus on your own life and create a positive environment for yourself and those you love. If someone chooses a destructive path, accept their decision, if they won't allow anyone to help them. But let them go, don't hold a grudge, which only weighs on you. Forgiving is about YOU, not about the other person. At least that was my conclusion, maybe it will work for you, too. Best of luck for your journey, you can do this!!