It is my experience that pleasers have a harder time looking after themselves. It doesnt come naturally to us to put ourselves first. I feel guilt if I go to the gym when I could have been cleaning out my moms house. And I feel guilt if I do the cleaning and skip gym. We have to muster some selfishness to succeed. Taking care of yourself and your health isn't something to feel guilty about. But people around you are maybe afraid they will not have the same place in your life if you achieve your dreams. They might be worried that you will change into a person that is different to who they have been accustomed to. They may not be aware of it themselves. Just an idea.I have or have had all of the issues you write about, I think. Check out a few of my blogs if you want to read more about it. I also agree with Nicole and Diana.But for the cake tasting and the buffet,- relax. Put your diet on hold for half a day and enjoy your cakes! One spoonful of each is pleasant, two if it is hard to decide. Getting all desperate and eating everything in sight just to get away from your feelings will only make you feel bad. <3<3
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