One of the hardest things for me is not just overcoming my own temptations but that of my friends'. I never quite realized how often we eat out or buy snacks as part of interracting. It seemed so normal before.
Yesterday, I had a meeting with some friends (we're desigining a card game!) and I brought a protien shake I made at home (containes yogurt, almond milk, protien, veggies like spinach and kale, and fruit) and cut up cucumber for light dinner. (I'm trying to have the bigger meal at lunch and the smaller one for dinner.) Anyway, I had this in full view of everyone. Then, my friends ordered chinese food and invited me to join -- I said no. Then, another friend ordered a plate of 15 cookies. LOL. Full disclosure: I ended up having one, but sometimes having one is harder for me than having none so I'm still counting that as a win, haha.
When a friend kind of questioned me about why I wasn't ordering out with them, not wanting to announce my goals to everyone, I said something along the lines of I was trying to be good. She looked at me incredulously and said, "By not eating?!" LOL, what? But I just--?
This made me think back to all the friends who offered me the very food I'm trying to avoid these past few weeks, even after they know about Dietbet/general goals of weightloss. It's kind of strange. It's like not only do you then have to not order fries yourself, but refuse numerous times the offers from your fries-having friends and I think that wears on your resolve.
So tomorrow, I'm going to see a movie with a former roommate. She wanted to do dinner first because we haven't hung out in a while, and I agreed. (I'll try to mitigate it with a healthy breakfast and lunch and go for a walk). Then she offered to use points to get us popcorn and drinks... and all I could think was I haven't either of those things since this dietbet started and I can't start now. I did explain to her how I could do dinner but not snacks and she understood, but I felt weirdly guilty. Like refusing my friends' generous offers will disappoint them, like I'm less fun to be around. Is that a weird anxiety?
When I started, I think I naively imagined myself in some kind of weight loss bubble, but none of us actually live like that. Everyday we may be faced with situations where our friends/families/coworkers present us with temptations.
Lesson of this past week: If you mess up too badly, you'll spend the rest of the week trying to get back to where you were instead of moving further along. Which is why I only lost one pound this week and that was hard won. *Sigh*
If you read this, do you encounter this problem yourself? How do you deal with your well-meaning friends and family who may not understand your struggles or situation?