Men throwing me off

Posted on March 11, 2015

Ok girls,

It's been a while since I had a connection with a guy and trust me, when its going well I find myself on cloud 9. However, things have gone a miss and he's stopped contacting me and its made me realise my trigger for overeating is when i get that sense of desertation and all I want to do is eat. I can't let this affect me but its really getting on top of me. I'm one of those that in a relationship I am healthier and always lose weight but outside of them I pile on the pounds.

How do I get this guy out of my head and stop myself binge eating. I think I need to go the gym ASAP as I've ate my daily calorie allowance and its only 4.15pm so I need distractions.

I can't deal with men when they screw me around!!!!

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Thomas

05/20/2015 9:54PM

Hello, I'm a guy. And probably the last person you want to hear this from, but here is my experience.I always knew I wanted to be married an have kids ever since I was in Jr High. Chased girls I did with a passion. And I always have thought I was a good catch. So why why why, couldn't I catch the eye of a future wife?Nothing was happening and I finally said to God, "I GIVE UP! Help me focus my energy on Godly relationships with other men!" It was shortly after that when my wife found me! I had no idea she was even interested in me. Sounds cliche but it is true. I never believed it when others told me that it worked for them either.So, my advice is focus on your relationship with God and become the woman He want's you to be, then He will present the right guy for you.May you be Blessed Mightily! YBIC

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Nicole L.

03/11/2015 6:09PM

KB hit it on the nose; control your own fate. It took me a while to get there too. But happy to say, I'm finally taking a stand and doing right by me. Do it for yourself, you deserve it!

misscoombs

03/11/2015 5:57PM

Great to hear!!! Amazing job!

KnitterBeth

03/11/2015 12:56PM

Decide who has the power over your life: you or him? Decide if you would rather be a helpless victim at the mercy of "the fates" (or men, or whatever), or someone who controls her own life and her own outcomes. <3

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Kaja K.

I completely agree, I deleted his number and killed it at the gym and feel amazing. I am concentrating on me for the next few months then hopefully I have the self confidence to deal with those pesky men in the future

Kaja K.

03/11/2015 12:49PM

I just wanted to say thanks guys. Where I normally would probably had half loaf of bread lol and eat everything I could see, I took my anxious, depressed, frustrated self straight the gym and did 1 hour of cardio as well as walk to and from the gym (approx. 1 hours altogether) and burnt over 1000 cals and now feel great. I just think if I have that same anxiety again I need to go kill it in the gym as I know in the long-run thats the way I can solve my issues.And yes, I think I can't put men into the equation as I have enough demons myself than some arse getting involved.Thanks all

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Pam

03/11/2015 11:43AM

Me either. That is why for me I decided on this journey men are off the table. It always happen to me and I just need to focus on me. Sorry you having this moment but think of it as that a moment and put your self first. If he doesn't realize the jewel he had in you then he ain't worth thinking of. I wish you the best. Hit that gym, if you swim, wear the pool out.

Jessica

03/11/2015 10:53AM

I went through a really bad breakup a while ago and I also eat when I am alone, board, depressed... ok maybe I just like to eat. Anyways I fixed it by signing up for a marathon. Yes I know crazy, right?! Well I am a runner so a half marathon just didn't seem far enough so I went for the full but it is not about the distance it is about the time. Signing up gives you a money commitment which caused me to want to make it to the finish line which caused me to train. Well those hours I use to spend eating I spent running instead. I listened to podcasts, books on tape, lots and lots of music and thought about what made me me. Little did I know that the running was not only allowing me to lose weight but it was also giving me the alone time I needed to build the strength and confidence to stand on my own. At the end of 26.2miles I found complete exhaustion, aches and pains I never knew could exist, blisters the size of mountains, and myself, strong and alone... no more guy in my head :)

Myra S.

03/11/2015 9:42AM

I don't know you but it sounds like your happiness depends on whether or not you are in a relationship. I've also been there and the best thing you can do is take care of yourself. When you workout, it clears your mind and body. It releases endorphins. The key is making sure that you are happy with yourself. Overeating is a temporary fix for sadness. Then after you do it, you're filled with even more guilt for doing it and the cycle continues. Positive energy draws positive energy. Get rid of the negative energy and all the toxic food in your house. I agree with Vegan Warrior about the medicine ball slams LOL but I'd also add kickboxing or just get a pair of gloves and hit a punching bag lol. Huge stress reliever for me.

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misscoombs

03/11/2015 9:31AM

Hi!It's so great that you have been able to open up and share this story as I am sure many people relate. Sometimes I feel like I am the opposite, when I am in a relationship (now in a marriage happily for a year) I get comfortable thinking that "the other person loves me enough". When I suppose it's not really about there other person, it's about us. We have to do something so,so tough which is learning how to care for ourselves. Women are so great at taking care of everyone but when it comes to taking care of ourselves, for ourselves we drop the ball. I think you really need to write down all the positive things you love about yourself and keep them somewhere you can reflect on them if you are having a hard time. If you struggle making the list maybe you can take yourself on a date, learn all about those amazing qualities YOU have and see what an amazing person you are! Don't let anyone bring you down when you have the power to bring yourself up! Best of luck!!

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