Trouble Believing

Posted on March 25, 2015

January was great for me on here. I imagine the excitement of the new year makes that true for a lot of people. February was okay, but I lost very little. I had good progress for the year though and won my first round of diet bets, so over all I was staying positive. Then March came and I basically took a snooze! I let my healthy eating habits slip, had way too many treats for my birthday (and the surrounding days), missed too many workouts and gained back everything I lost in February! Even though I KNEW I needed to give myself a bit of a mental vacation after all the life changes going on the beginning of this year, and even though I completely planned to spluge on my birthday, I was incredibly discouraged with the backslide. In fact, I nearly gave up completely. As I was trying to fall asleep two nights ago I kept thinking all sorts of negative thoughts about giving up and how trying to change is futile. It finally hit me that even with my success the first two months I never really BELIEVED that I could get back in shape! I basically figured I was stuck how I am for the rest of eternity. Now, part of me is not TOO upset with this. I am an over all healthy, capable person. I am working on learning to love and accept myself and all that jazz. I just really, really, really, want to be able to wear cute clothes and jump and run faster. I want my knees and ankles to last for a long time. I want to wear an awesome costume for Halloween this year that I wore 4 years ago and love but can't fit in anymore. I want to feel sexy gosh darn it! I'm not going to succeed unless I believe I can do this.

So... I have to believe in myself.

Once I realized this was a problem it's gotten better. I've had a great week. I'm working on recovering from the first half of this month. I've had excellent workouts that make me feel exhausted in that wonderful way. I'm not sure I REALLY believe yet though, so here I am writing another blog about my worries. I will listen to Shaun T's podcast today on my run. I haven't listened to any of them yet, but he is amazing and so inspiring to me, so I hope that will help too.

Anyone else out there having trouble really believing in yourself? How do we turn this around?

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Linda

03/30/2015 5:03PM

You can do it! I've had a rough March as well! I managed to turn it around about a week ago with the support of my best friend. I was telling her about how I was for certain going to lose the DB4 bets that I have ending 3/31, 4/1, & 4/2. I had been stressed & those darn girl scout cookies (& other junk & bad habits) reared their ugly head again. She had faith in me when I had lost hope! The simple words of encouragement meant so much She also told me about this wonderful 7-day "diet" (not a long term solution) to get me back on track. (The sacred heart diet) I'm so grateful to have an awesome support system, that includes everyone on here who I can relate to & who totally understand my struggles as well!

Elizabeth H.

Hi. :-). Thanks for your comment. It really is wonderful to have support on her, and people who understand. I have a friend who was just like "oh you just count calories and you'll lose weight". Sigh. I wish it were THAT simple. People like that who just don't "get it" bum me out so much it's pathetic, but now I have people here! It's wonderful! I am going to get back on track too, we can do it!

Mooskie

03/27/2015 4:58PM

Hi Elizabeth~ Loved your blog, amazing how similar our hopes & desires are! We all want to feel great & look amazing & want our bodies to last over time. I am really blown away by understanding how many other people struggle with the whole weight / body / in-shape issue, no matter what age or where they live. It is comforting to find so many like-minded people, trying their best to make positive change. If it was easy there would not be a website called, Diet Bet! I understand not believing in yourself, my weakness for red wine has resulted in my weight gain all over again. Compile foot surgery, menopause, & lot's of family drama, I can gain weight like a Super Star! Once the weight gain has happened, then I do not believe I can ever lose it again. It's always a flip of the switch, & a mind set that takes place that allows for those good habits to result in another weight loss event. So belief, we have it working for us & against us. Together I believe we can all do this! Good luck! :)

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Travis

03/25/2015 9:24AM

Oh man! First off thanks for sharing. I know many have all been there, and it is not fun and feels like an deserted island at times. The last time I went through one of these it came down to choice. I told myself I chose to slip, I chose to drink that big Soda, I chose to miss my morning run... basically it was my choice to slip. If it is my choice to slip, why can't it also be my choice to get back to the diet and movement. What I found is like the weight slips back on, it also learns the new you, you are trying to become and will slip off right back to where you were prior to the "rest" period. Stay strong, keep up the good work. And Elizabeth you are beautiful and precious, make sure you tell yourself that because you deserve to hear it!

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Elizabeth H.

Thanks :-) I hope you are right and that I can get back to before the slip quickly. I'm sure that will help me feel more successful. I did just have a great workout and am feeling really good right now! Onward!