All or nothing?

Honestly people who are obsessive about eating super healthy all the time may be bordering on disordered eating. It is OK to have some "unhealthy" things sometimes. Nothing is truly unhealthy if you only eat it on occasion! It's only when the unhealthy things become the majority of what you eat that they are really that bad for you. Are you FEELING healthier and losing weight? Then what you are doing is healthy. I say prove 'em wrong. Ignore when they try to shame you for not following THEIR plan, and in the end when you've made your goals you'll have proven them their plan isn't the only one that works. You don't have to deprive yourself to be healthy.